I think one of the hardest parts of growing lately has been facing the reality that not everyone in my current life is going to support me in my new one.

Growth means change. That is obvious.

And with change comes new perspective’s, opinions, and mannerisms. And even if you are growing for the better, the people in your old life may not support you where you’re going. .

The old adage that really rings to this is misery loves company.

It’s because pain in the ego doesn’t like to be alone and unsupported. The pain body attached to the ego needs to be validated. And when your role in their life doesn’t support what is familiar, they lash out and demean what you’re doing.

Imagine you are a child, and you love your life as it is.

You love your friends, your town, your school, your neighborhood. But to your dismay, you mother, who’s dedicated her life to raising you, is extremely unhappy.

She feels disconnected, stressed, overwhelmed from the constant pressure of a job that she despises. So she starts to look inward, digs deep to figure out what lies at the core of her heart. What is the life she desires to feel fulfilled and happy.

And after months of searching she realizes she wants to start her own business. She wants to see out her dream of starting a horse ranch that specializes in working with children with autism. But she knows realistically to do that requires a move inland where she can buy lots of land.

So she sets onward with her goals. But you resent it. The new change hits you like the Austral Ocean on the coastline.

Your pain body needs to be supported. And so it blinds you to the harsh truth that, had your mother chose to keep things as they were, who knows what the stress of depression and discontentment could have done to her. And even though you are her child, sometimes she has to put herself first and those decisions may leave you feeling like you just can’t support her.

A shift in her identity changes your role in her life. And often times, what is unfamiliar is disliked, at first.

If you find yourself alone, at the foot of change, and the people in your old life no longer support you, I have 3 extremely powerful thoughts I want you to embody.

Repeat these every day, multiple times a day, whenever you feel unsupported because with enough repetition, you’ll slowly start to re-train your subconscious mind with new truths.

The truth that: you are divinely special and largely responsible for doing your part of sharing your unique gifts with the world. And sometimes, that means weeding out people in your old life and identities you once held.

The thoughts to repeat when people don’t support you:

For the Person:

“I send this person love. I send myself love. It was a blessing to have their influence in my life for as long as they were. But I am growing and our relationship and their role no longer serve me.”

In the moment of un-validation:

“This experience of being un-supported was such a great blessing. It has taught me to be bigger than my emotions and find peace in myself. I love and am grateful for the struggle and resistance. Because it’s the toughest moments that give the greatest lessons.”

The blessing:

“I am sending (ENTER_PERSONS_NAME) thoughts of boundless love and growth. May their minds expand and see the world from a greater perspective. May their hearts expand and be full of love.”

Viewing difficult situations from a birds eye view has a profound impact on helping you rise above it. When you send them love instead of kneeling to emotion, you shift your frequency, which opens you up to abundance and strength.

A few years into my growth journey, I started reflecting on how I reacted to situations. When people disagreed with me, when people belittled me, when people hurt me with labels, and I realized I was victim to the hand of rage, jealousy, and perpetual instant reaction. I never allowed myself to think before I act, so I was constantly under stress.

It took a long time to become emotionally aware, but putting in the work has changed my life tremendously.

Anyone is capable of change, no matter how emotionally detached. So when you feel like you’re alone and no one is supporting you, the first step is to start viewing situations from an aerial perspective and the second step is change your thought’s around the situation.

Strengthen that mind. Stack the bricks of a reinvented you and the exceptional figure you are.

Stay present. Sending vibrations of reinvention your way <3

xO

Ariana