Why is my dog always so happy?
I just yelled at him for peeing on the couch, and yet, there he is greeting me at the door, tongue out, tail waggin’.
Does he not remember what just happened 10 minutes ago?
Do dogs have memory?
Why can’t I be more like him?
Dogs, like many other animals, have this really unique gift. They were blessed from the almighty star-dust-evolution with this special power to not give a shit about a second ago.
The last relationship I was in was plutonic to say the least. But when I reflect back on it, the thing that got me most was how I harped on every nitty gritty detail of the past.
“You forgot to buy me flowers for my birthday 2 years ago? Great! now we’re going to have a 2 week long fight about it.”
I was so caught up on material things I never took a moment to really feel what was going on inside.
“Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.”
Eckhart Tolle
Back in 2014, I couldn’t grasp that concept if it smacked me across the face. But time, faith, and ambition are what lead me to comprehend and embody it today.
When we give our attention to things that happened yesterday, we rob the time we have of enjoying things with us today.
We add more stress to our lives, stunting us from growing. In both yourself and any relationship you’re in.
If you look at a map and you want to get from point A to point B, you have to first learn the way there.
Well, the same thing goes in our level of awareness.
To learn to quiet the mind, we must first learn to distinguish our ego. The thoughts guarding us from the present.
By bringing attention to time, we slowly start diminishing the distance between living in the past and living now.
The original thought:
“My boyfriend forgot my birthday last year. Im not gonna make it easy on him this year because of it.”
What this thought is really doing:
Caging you from freely living your life, in harmony with yourself and your surroundings. So, we bring attention to the original thought to break the cycle.
The new thought:
“That resentment to my boyfriend is just my ego. It’s me being petty. All i’m really doing is hurting myself by harping on what happened a year ago.”
What this new thought now does to you:
Allows you to live peacefully within yourself, lessening the power of your ego.
With any relationship in your life.. spouse, sibling, child, friend, if you are mentally living anywhere else but now you’re only going to weaken that relationship and hurt anyone involved. Including yourself.
Things to remember:
Live like yesterday never happened!
• The past doesn’t matter! Yea sure, our memory is what helps us learn and prevents us from making the same mistake twice, but it also prevents you from living in harmony.
• The more attention we bring on the present the less consumed well be by the past.
Make it a learning experience with the person you’re trying to build a relationship with. You both will benefit 🙂
Stay present! Sending vibrations of reinvention your way <3
xO
Ariana
